I recently went through a multi-stage interview process that included five conversations. The initial interviews felt great conversational, engaging, and mutually insightful. I appreciated the opportunity to learn about the team and the challenges they were working to solve. However, as the process progressed, the experience shifted. One of the final interviewers arrived 10 minutes late, and the conversation felt rushed. I was also asked to prepare and deliver a case study something not originally planned due to indecision between me and another finalist. The case study was directly tied to the core problem this role would address, requiring substantial time, thought, and preparation. Despite the effort and strategic insight I brought to the presentation, the panel felt rushed, and I left with the impression that my work wasn’t fully acknowledged or appreciated. Even after the additional presentation, the team remained undecided. Throughout the process, I expressed a strong interest in the role and the company. I was transparent about having another offer but made it clear that this position was my top choice. In the end, I accepted the other offer because that team demonstrated clear alignment, valued my time and contributions, and made me feel genuinely wanted. It’s clear that we’re in an employer’s market right now, but that doesn’t mean we should lose sight of humanity and respect in the interview process. Candidates are evaluating companies just as much as companies are evaluating candidates. Interviews should be a two-way conversation built on transparency, preparation, and mutual respect. I look forward to the day the market shifts and candidates regain more leverage. Until then, let’s raise the bar and treat every interaction as an opportunity to build trust regardless of who holds the upper hand. While the overall interview process had its challenges, I have to highlight one bright spot working with my recruiter was one of the best parts of the experience. They were consistently communicative, encouraging, and brought a positive attitude every step of the way. It made a real difference
